It’s the most wonderful time of the year! ?Well that’s what the song says anyways. I’m not so sure I’d agree, though. Every year. Every. Single. Year, I am somehow surprised by Christmas’ stealthlike ability to jump out at me out of nowhere. I know, I know, how can I be surprised, the clues are everywhere! ?#1 I have a calendar. It allows me to see precisely how many days there are until Christmas. #2 Department stores start showing their Christmas displays as early as October. #3. There are annual preceding events that lead into the Christmas season; namely Thanksgiving. #4. I have small children who are doing at least one of the following at all times a) making a Christmas list b) singing a Christmas song or c) inconspicuously snooping around the house because they they seem to have “lost something.” ?Haha, kid, you can’t find what doesn’t exist!”
Despite the foreshadowing events leading up to big day, I inevitably find myself running around, last minute frantically searching for clever and personalized gifts for my nine thousand loved ones. And if I brilliantly took advantage of the post-holiday wrapping paper sales last year, then you can pretty much assume that I also found a brilliant spot to store said wrapping paper. If I could only remember where that spot is….oh and tape, gonna have to find that tape…and scissors.
I host Christmas Eve every year and I usually don’t even think about the menu until the night before, and then panic about all of the groceries I have to go buy. Luckily there are a couple 24 hour groceries nearby. Great place to pick up some even more last minute gifts…and tape..and scissors.
The deadlines, commitments, expectations, and parties can be a nightmare for those of us with ADHD. I am one of the room moms for my sons kindergarten Christmas party, and since I volunteered way back in August, I completely forgot about it until yesterday when I opened the week old email from his teacher. Apparently I have been assigned to the “craft station” which entails thinking of a kindergarten age appropriate craft, purchasing the supplies, and leading the kids in designing whatever masterpiece I dreamt up…perfect.
Tack this on to remembering to get a gift for each teacher, service worker, boss, and babysitter, and you’re cranking up the stressometer to a near meltdown level.
And the parties. Parties are great and all, but… the people! There are so many of them. In one place. With so much to say…seemingly all at once. ?Talk about sensory overload! It’s really a lot to take in.
If you find yourself with similar anxieties around this time of year, don’t let it get the best of you. And don’t try to be a superhero! Know your limitations. If craft making and gift wrapping, and cutesy personalized gifts are not your bag, Don’t. Even. Go. There. ?Keep it as simple as possible. Gift cards are wonderful, and easy, and they allow the recipient to decide for themselves what they want. And who knows someone better than themself? I mean, you can’t even compete.
For out of town gift giving, order online, have it gift wrapped and delivered directly to their home. Or get them a membership to a local museum or a subscription to a magazine that is specific to their interests or hobbies. Contributing ?to holiday parties does not have to mean staying up all night baking cookies. Order from a local bakery..leave it to the professionals.
If you’d like to make it more personal, then attach a note. I find that I am much better with words than I am with gift-giving and wrapping, crafting, or baking; so along with my store bought treats and gift cards, I’ll write little notes to express my gratitude for all of the amazing people in my life.
As for Christmas cards…. some years I send them, and some years I don’t. Some years the Christmas cards end up being New Years cards. Or “weird…you just got it in February” cards. I am MUCH more productive AFTER this crazy season ?comes to a wrap. (No pun intended)